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Monday, November 5, 2012

There's a first time for everything!

It's been a while and I (may) have lots to say so bear with me!  We've had a trip to the pumpkin patch, Halloween, doctors' appointments, growth and amazing changes!  Let's start with her Liana's doctor appointment.  Two weeks ago, Liana had her first appointment with her pediatrician.  I love her doctor.  She is also an adoptive mom with a daughter from China and when she heard about Liana, she contacted me to help us out before we went to China!  Imagine that!  We usually take our kids to the other office for this practice but she somehow heard about us through the doctor grapevine when I was trying to get some antibiotics to take with us and she hooked us up with antibiotics, the scabies cream and some other things plus a sheet she put together explaining how to use all of the different meds in case we needed them.  And she and I emailed back and forth a bunch before we left.  It was so nice to finally meet this wonderful doctor in person and she was just as amazing as she had been on the phone and through email.  Liana checked out great!  She has gained no weight but has put on over 2 1/2 inches!  Did you see that?...TWO AND A HALF INCHES in under a month!!!  Amazing what a little healthy normal food can do for you!  I do not claim to be the healthiest cooking mama on the block by any means but I guess I'm doing okay!  A little bit tragic, really, that just this healthy(ish) food has helped her to grow so quickly as it shows that she was seriously lacking in nutrition before.  I noticed that she was losing some of her baby rolls, and it's no wonder since she gained no weight but gained a lot of height!  She went from being in the 19th percentile to the 69th percentile for height!  Wow!  Another tall kid in the family!  I have to admit though, I'm a little sad that she's starting to actually look her age now!  As for her esophageal hiatus hernia, the doctor was not concerned and said that she would have done exactly as we had done as far as feeding her more and more food and not worrying about whether it was soft or not as we saw that she was handling it just fine.  Since she's not having any issues with reflux, we don't need to be concerned.  So far, so good!

We also had Liana's first trip to the pumpkin patch, which was a lot of fun.  And then, of course, Halloween.  Liana picked out a Rapunzel costume.  I held up a couple of dresses and she dove for the Rapunzel one with the biggest smile on her face.  And she made an absolutely adorable Rapunzel!  Ella decided to be Pocahontas and Ethan was a Cars race car driver.  We took them out trick-or-treating and they all had so much fun.  Liana, quickly learned to hold out her bucket for candy and by the end, she was even saying, "trick or" I guess assuming if she left it open ended, they would have to finish the sentence by giving her a "treat" in her bucket.

We also took Liana to her first movie the other day.  We took her to Hotel Transylvania.  The only way to survive a movie with our 2 two year olds is to stuff them with food the entire time.  Actually, popcorn and licorice ended up being our dinner.  See what I mean about feeding her healthy food?  Hahaha!  Yep, Mom of the Year here! 

I know that I say this a lot but Liana is doing so amazingly well, we can't even believe it!  She sleeps (by herself) through the night and, after tacking up dark blankets underneath her curtains, she now goes down for naps without a tear.  She apparently likes a dark, dark room with a nightlight.  She's learning English really quick.  She already says around 20 words and she understands most of what we say.  She is getting used to the dogs and even sometimes dares to touch one of them!  It's funny because we had to teach Ella and Ethan to not just run up to any dog and Liana has to learn that our doggies are "niiice".  She is also doing so well bonding with all of us.  She and Ethan are still working on their relationship but since they're both two and haven't grown up (to this point) together, I think they're doing about as good as they can!  Liana has figured out Erik's and my roles.  As soon as Erik walks in the door after work, she cracks up.  That's all it takes!  But when she needs some comfort or cuddles, it's Mommy that she runs to.  Not that I don't have fun with her and Erik doesn't love on her but she definitely knows that Daddy's the goofball and I'm the mushy one.  I'm such a lucky mama to be raising kids with Erik.  He is such a loving, fun and hands on daddy.  He works loooong days but when he comes home, he still plays with the kids and helps put them to bed every single night.  So, back to Liana, she and Ella are doing really well too.  Ella still adores her but the "honeymoon" is over and she is perfectly willing to say "no" to Liana now and doesn't tiptoe around her like she'll break.  I'm glad that she's treating her more like a sister now and doesn't feel like she has to be so careful with her all the time.  It shows me that she's confident in their relationship now and she doesn't have to earn Liana's love by being nice all the time.  I know, I might sound crazy but this is normal and anything normal feels great to me.  It's like we're starting to get it together.

I feel like I know Liana now.  I know how to comfort her when she cries, I know what she likes and doesn't like, I know when she needs to be fed, cuddled, played with, etc.  It sounds simple but it didn't feel like that when she first joined our family.  This little girl had two years of history that we had no part of and I felt like, she's my daughter but I don't know her!  I didn't know what she wanted when she would cry, I didn't know what she liked to eat, what her favorite toys were, if she could really even walk. I didn't know anything!  It's an amazing feeling to feel like you actually know your child.  We will never know her or what she was like before being a Tuma, except for what puzzle pieces we can put together from pictures and what little information we have on her, but I'm starting to feel like that's okay.  It will always be sad to me that we don't know her whole history like we do Ella and Ethan's but you have to take what you can get.  As I filled out her medical papers and all of the history on her for her doctor appointment, I could only write "unknown" for so many things, it was a bit of a blow but it will be okay.  We're moving forward together and, of course, we will do our best to fill in the blanks for ours and Liana's sakes.  She has a history and that's important but I'm starting to accept the fact that it will always be a mystery.  It's amazing to see how Liana has moved on with us and is doing it beautifully.  We will talk about the past as much as she wants to and I will always have a special place in my heart for Liana's first mama.  I wish so much that I could let her know that Liana is doing well and has a mommy, daddy, big sister and big brother who love her to the moon and back.  She gave her life and I feel sad for her that she doesn't get to be the one to watch her as she grows but I am so happy and grateful that I am. 

Now, onto the pictures.  They will probably look like a big, jumbled up mess because I'm going to take some off of my camera and phone and just copy and paste others from Facebook and the FB ones are always bigger.  Sorry, I'm too lazy to re-do them.  Here comes the photobomb!

First time at the park

Shopping with Ethan

First time at the bounce house (and going down the slide slower than I ever knew was possible!)

Heading to the Fall Festival

First petting zoo

First Pumpkin Patch
(Ethan sat in this bucket too but he was only 5 months old then)

First Halloween!

Just having fun, swingin'


First time at the mall's play area

And today


  1. As I've said before, you guys could be a poster family for adoption! It is so heartwarming to see how well and how quickly Liana is adjusting and becoming a part of your sweet,busy, loving family! She is just thriving! You can make jokes about your food choices if you want, but obviously you are growing 3 healthy happy little ones! Sarah, you and Erik make such a great team it's easy to see why Lili is thriving! I wish the same for every child in the world. Love and prayers, Mom.

  2. P.S. The pictures are absolutely wonderful!!! We just enjoy all of them SO MUCH!

  3. I am so glad to hear she is doing so well! I love reading all the updates.