So, here we are now with our adorable and mischievous two year olds and life...can be crazy but what is funnier, sillier and more adorable than a two year old?! Now times it by two and you can imagine my life! 2 x the trouble, 2 x the fun. Whenever anyone asks how we're doing and how things are going with Liana, my thoughts always goes straight to the two of them, so I guess it is like twins in a way. One of the hardest adjustments since adopting Liana is the relationship between Ethan and Liana and their relationships, separately and together, with us. It's a complicated thing. I knew that it would be tough and hard on Ethan but I didn't know just how hard and I didn't realize how angry Ethan would be. When we were in China, Ethan went through a lot. I've talked about this before but it was a hard trip for him. With his head injury on our Gotcha day and just the constant go, go, go plus adding a new little sister. Not always fun. But since coming home, he has relaxed a lot. Some of it was instant. It was a relief for him to be back in Texas, in his own home, in his own bed and with a more normal routine. His anger seemed to dissolve right away. Of course, that didn't mean that he loved his little sister yet. Now he had to adjust to her being in "his" home and playing with his toys and, of course, having to share "his" mommy and daddy and big sister. This was not what he dreamed of when he talked about "I make happy LiLi". But, let's be honest, do our siblings ever live up to what we dream they will be when there's a new baby coming into the family? No really, do they? I wouldn't know, being the youngest in my family. :-P
On the first day with Liana, I got a great picture of Ethan with this hopeful, excited look on his face. Wow, I have a new sister! This is great! That look quickly disappeared as an almost constant scowl appeared. We still see the scowl...a lot...but things are getting better. I see them starting to bond and I see it more all the time. They play mostly near each other but sometimes they play together. Ethan will say, "I touch LiLi for a little while?" and rub her head. I've seen her do the same to him. She was sitting in his wagon one day and I heard him say, "Come on Li-wanna (that's how he says her name)" and he just walked off with her in the wagon, full of giggles and a look of apprehension on her face. He has come into her room when I was first getting her up in the morning, grabbed her foot and said, "Good morning, Li-wanna!" I've seen her lean her head onto him for a hug, just out of the blue. Just today, he went into the fridge for his sippy of milk and came back with her bottle, handing it over and saying, "Here you go!" And then later, Liana tried to share a book with Ethan (sometimes she actually shares and sometimes she whips it away at the last minute :-) and Ethan said, "No, but thank you." These are all good signs. The best is when he does something that makes her laugh. They both are so pleased with each other when that happens. When I got them out of their chairs after breakfast one morning, Liana stood up against a wall and so Ethan did too, saying that they were spies. Although I know she had no idea what he was talking about, they both got such a kick out of it that they kept on doing it, looking pleased with themselves and giggling the whole time. Cute, little moments like this make me feel like things are getting better. They're two, so I'm not expecting any heart to heart conversations to happen anytime soon but I'm excited to see them growing as brother and sister and as friends. I hope that they can get to be great buddies for each other as they grow up.
Look how excited Ethan was on Gotcha Day!
Going for a ride in their matching car seats
Cooking in the playroom
"Let's go, Li-wanna!"
Don't ask me why there's a rat in our sandbox. *shrug*
Our little tech savvy tots during Ella's dance class
The morning sillies
Sharing a car cart...notice how no one is sitting in the car? :-/
Such fun in swings!